In the beginning
Firstly, CONGRATULATIONS!! By quitting, you give yourself a wonderful gift. I know it’s probably scary but it IS the right thing to do. On some level you already know this. So praise yourself every day. Focus on the fact that you are liberating yourself from an addiction. You are not depriving yourself of anything. Stick around, communicate and read read READ read read.
There’s so much wisdom here. Stories and struggles and advice from scores and scores of people who have traveled the same path as you. Listen to them and go on this journey with the knowledge that it is the VERY BEST thing to do. It’s wonderful! Celebrate! And even if you don’t feel completely happy about it, try one of my techniques which is “Fake it till you Make it”. Smile though gritted teeth if you have to, but say – “Hooray, I am free! Today I will not smoke and I will be free!” Do this every day.
After a while
You will realize that it is actually true. You won’t have to fake it any more. It happens for everyone in different ways but it WILL happen. But ONLY if you follow the golden rule…do not smoke.
Smoking and relapsing is like being a mouse running in a wheel. If the mouse keeps running, the wheel keeps turning. The only way to stop the wheel is to stop running and get off it. Being a non smoker is much easier than being a smoker. This is the truth. I smoked for about 25 years and I’ve been a non smoker for a lot less than that but I already know it. And you will too…but only if you stop running and get off the wheel. It’s like being a recovering alcoholic – you cannot have a drink because you risk a complete relapse. When the mouse starts running again, the wheel starts turning again. While a “sneaky” cigarette might not put you back to full time smoking, there is a substantial risk that it will. IT IS NOT worth the risk. Re-administering the drug of dependence means re-awakening the addiction. In this case, cigarettes are your drug of addiction. Do not re-administer them. Do not get back on the wheel.
Do whatever it takes to protect your quit
Treat it like a delicate seedling or a newborn baby. In time, the seedling becomes a tree and the baby becomes an adult. They can stand on their own. But in the early days they need a lot of care and protection. Just like your quit. Cup it in your hands, wrap your heart around it, love it and protect it.
At least part of you probably thinks you can’t do this. You’re not alone. I’d hazard a guess that we probably all felt like that…before we realized we COULD. I know it seems hard to believe at the moment or scary but you CAN do it. Quitting smoking is completely do-able. None of us are special. We were ALL addicted to smoking. If we could stop then you can. And not just stop smoking but love being free from it. Quitting is a journey…difficult, scary and emotional at times but also exciting, joyful and exhilarating.